“If we listened to our intellect,
we’d never have a love affair…
or go into business.
You’ve got to jump off cliffs and
build your wings on the way down.”
— Annie Dillard
Message of the Day:
Today’s meditation is about learning to let go of negative judgment about others and yourself. When we judge, we are resisting life and blocking the flow of existence. It’s not that we need to pretend there aren’t problems, difficult people, and flaws within our personalities. There certainly are. But if we learn to focus our attention on the positive features that are emerging, then we will be encouraging that unfolding potential, instead of giving more attention to the imperfections and strengthening them. Being non-judgmental means being your truest self, following your unique path in life while cooperating and working in harmony with the universe. This is the aim of today’s meditation.
I find my success without judging others or myself.
I open my consciousness to universal compassion.
Yesterday we explored letting go, discovering the liberation and success you find in trusting with openness and faith. Now we take the power of letting go to a whole new level. We are focusing on one of the biggest obstacles to success….we’re letting go of judgment. Welcome to Day 19. Judgement simply put is fear and being right by making others wrong perpetuates a negative cycle that blocks your energy and true potential. It tears you down and hinders your success. It depletes you and everybody around you. Acceptance, on the other hand is love, it’s nurturing, it feeds you. Having compassion for yourself and other people without criticism or judgement creates a space for more blessings, more abundance and more success. Let your heart feel the connection we are all meant to share. You will strengthen yourself, you will build bonds with others and sow the seeds of real meaningful growth. Is that success? I certainly think so and so does Deepak. So let’s share in his wisdom and then we will all meditate.”
We now know that success comes to you naturally when you no longer put up resistance but have an open attitude. This leads to the issue of judgement.
As a form of defense, many people divert attention from themselves by criticizing others while deep down they feel harshly judgmental about themselves. Every time you judge yourself, you are blocking your inner potential. Self judgement is the most limiting factor when people fail to fulfil their dreams. Judgement of others make people wary of you and less willing to be your ally on the path to success.
Since we are defining success as a living reality here and now, judgement stops today once you no longer feel the need to make others wrong. To do that, you must stop making yourself wrong. Nobody is perfect. Instead of focusing on your flaws, stop thinking of perfection versus imperfection. Instead keep your vision focused on your unfolding potential. What you’re good at is getting better, what you’re weak at can be corrected, improved and helped along by others.
When we see that you’re a single cell in the body of the cosmos, it comes naturally to cooperate and act for the benefit of the whole just as the whole acts for your benefit. Heart cells don’t judge liver cells. Despite their differences, ever cell harmonizes its interests with the overall well-being of the body. In your own life, differences with others don’t have to lead to ‘us-versus-them’ or ‘me-against-the-world mentally.
Once you intend to drop the habit of judging, bonds of cooperation can be formed, giving you a support network beyond your ability to do everything yourself. At the same time, not judging relieves you of the constant need to compare yourself to other people. There is no need for negative comparison because your path is unique. No one ever achieves success through limitation. The secret is to be yourself with the intent of presenting your best self in every situation. Your best self, at the deepest level is timeless, embedded in the infinite field of consciousness.
As we prepare to meditate together, let’s take a moment to consider our centering thought, I find my success without judging others or myself Now let’s prepare for our meditation. Make yourself comfortable and close your eyes. Become aware of your breath and breathe slowly and deeply. With each breath, allow yourself to become more deeply relaxed. Gently introduce the mantra, Karuna Hum. This mantra helps cultivate compassion and acceptance for yourself and others without criticism or judgement. As you repeat the mantra, let your heart feel the connection and unity you feel with all. Repeat it silently to yourself, Karuna Hum. With each repetition, feel your body, mind and spirit open and receive just a little more. Whenever you find yourself distracted by thoughts, noises or physical sensations, simply return yourself to repeating the mantra, Karuna Hum. Continue with your meditation for about 10 minutes, Karuna Hum. Just mentally, Karuna Hum.
Now release the mantra. Continue to sit restfully, inhaling and exhaling slowly. When you feel ready, open your eyes. As you continue with your day, contemplate the centering thought
I find my success without judging others or myself
- Judgment is a major block to success is often unconscious, therefore we need to take an honest look at judgment. How are you judgmental with others? How are you making their decisions and behavior wrong or somehow bad?
- How are you judgmental with yourself? Write down the ways you may be subtly, or not so subtly, judging yourself harshly.
- To help free yourself and others from judgment, recognize that everyone is making the best decisions they know how to with the awareness they have at the time. Think about someone you know whose actions seem negative to you, and write down ways in which that person may believe what they are doing will bring them happiness.”